31/ 01/ 17
The feeling of being overlooked and under-appreciated stinks. You’re looking at someone who has experienced these emotions first-hand on many occasions! I know that I would stop whatever I was doing to rush to my friend’s side at the drop of a hat whenever they tell me that need my help with something or that they are feeling a bit under the weather and would enjoy my company…. However, when I need them it always seems as if they have better, more exciting things to do.
With a majority of my friends it always feels like I’m the first to have to text them if I want to do something fun with them. Whether it’s going to the beach, getting dinner, or just coming over for a bonfire and s’mores. It constantly seems as though I am the only one putting effort into getting together with my friends; it would be really nice if someone would ask me to hangout for once! Or when they do ask, it’s often times last minute and implies that they couldn’t get any of their “more popular” or “more interesting” friends to hangout, so they resorted to me.
I know that these matters may sound as if I’m overthinking them, but in the moment they can really sting. Especially to a teen-aged girl who is trying to filter out all of the superficial, self-adoring, and Christ ignoring people to try to find a solid, reliable, lifelong group of friends!
(Now that we have all of the self-pity “personal connection” jibber jabber out of the way I can finally share the part of this devo that I REALLY wanted to share, LOL!)
No matter how distant your friends may seem at the time, Jesus never leaves our side! In times like this it super important to get God’s outlook through prayer… We need to ask ourselves if it could be something we’re doing wrong that is driving our friends away. Are you being too shy, too snobby, talking too much while failing to listen to what others have to say? If so this might be a reason that your friends are disconnecting from you.
It is also important to understand that if you really don’t think that it is your doing, God may be putting you through this time of isolation for a reason. Maybe he wants us to reflect on ourselves and on our relationship with him. I always find this to be true when I’m feeling lonely and unloved. I can feel him nudging at my heart to indulge myself in His Word, and as soon as I read the first sentence of whatever bible plan I’ve been doing it always happens to be about how we are never really alone when we have Him in our lives! A couple of my favorite verses that imply this are:
Isaiah 41:10 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold my righteous right hand.
1 Peter 5:7 “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”
Lysa TerKeurst, a writer for Proverbs31.org, wrote that, “You aren’t set aside, you are set apart.” We must be so confident in ourselves and in our relationship with God that these times of seclusion no longer feel crappy but make us feel strong and empowered. Just as it is said in Psalm 139:14, we must give thanks to the Lord because we have been so amazingly and miraculously made! God speaks to us in our times of loneliness and low self-esteem to show us how to continue to be a friend even when our own friends don’t reciprocate it. Proverbs 18:24 says that “A man who has friends must himself be friendly.” So in order to maintain a social life full of positive people we must persevere in showing love to others no matter the way in which they make us feel.